I have been interviewing grandmas’ to hear their stories on
being a grandmother and their dealing with their adult children … there is
definitely a common thread … we all agree being a grandparent would be a lot
easier and fun if we did not have to deal with the parents.
Parents control the ability of a grandparent to have a
relationship, with their grandchildren. The parents are the ones who also
teaches the child to reach out to the grandparent … There was a time in society
where “elders” were treated with respect and it was duty of the younger members
in the family to check on the older members of the family and to help them…
This is not the case anymore in families, or it is rare … Yet these same
“modern families” claim they are teaching their children what family is … not
so much …
I have heard about grandmas that are very engaged, with
their grandchildren for they have been afforded the opportunity to be so … and
I have been told about grandparents who are into themselves, all they do is
travel and dine out in life, family is a non-started to them. As if they had
children only as an experience not a commitment …I heard about poor grandmas who have been abandoned by their families ...
Hands down one of the funniest grandma story’s came from a
92 year old “grandma” … she spoke of watching her grandson one day and how the
little boy loved to climb on furniture… This grandma was horrified to learn
that her small grandson was not being taught not to do such things…
So one day when her grandson climbed on a table … grandma
said this to her grandson … “Tables are for glasses not little asses”…
When the child went home that day, he immediately told his
mother, what grandma had taught him … with a “mommy did you know tables are for
glasses and not little asses?”
That phrase is now ingrained into that family unit! You go
grandma!!!! And remember to tell your climbing grandchildren where to put their
glasses and where to put their little asses …
