I have learned in life to stay out of anyone’s marriage … it
is a no win situation and it can be infuriating as well … to be frank, I do not
need anyone to do an “emotional dump” on me about their spouse, I have my own emotional
issues thank you… do not need a serving of yours… usually the spouse who complains
the most is the one most at fault … If you are unhappy and cannot work it out
leave the relationship. No one is called to be a martyr “in love” … a person
named Jesus Christ already took on that role.
Love is not a “feeling” it is a commitment, first to self as
in you made the choice and then to the one to whom you chose to be with … It is
ok to say, “I made a mistake this is not
working out and leave”, it is also ok to say, “ I will stay and work it through”… it is a
call of the heart and the tolerance level of the individual … as to what is
acceptable personally … If you are staying in a relationship out of guilt you
are placing on yourself or others place on you … not a good thing … if you
are “just settling” not a good thing either … demeaning to yourself and to your partner …
The grass is never greener in the next yard … every relationship
is hard and needs work … relationships and marriage should never be a “need” as
in you need to be married, it should be a “choice” as in you are choosing to be
with someone … and if you do not know yourself, you can never know someone
else. If you are bringing your own emotional baggage into a relationship, you will always accuse your partner of having the baggage you have not unpacked yourself ...
