A child will consider parents
and relatives “talking to them” about their behavior and invitation to go into
the opposite direction… Under the best of circumstances a pre-teen and teenager
is in “rebellion”… you and your family represents to them all that is wrong in
the world and what they do not want to be … Your “talking to them and saying
how bad their behavior is” … counterproductive for a child who is truly acting
out …
A parent has to realize they
do not have all the answers and although they may “think they know their child”
at the end of the day they do not, no one knows another on the level of inner
thoughts, anger, anxiety and torment … The parent has to lay done their pride that they have the answer ... and usually with a really troubled child family therapy is needed ... you cannot fix a child if they are returning home to the environment that caused the issue in the first place ...
I post on several blogs one concerning children who have
been sexual abused. I am advocate for the rights of children and this issue is
be beyond disturbing to me.
These children 95% of the time, will not tell
their parents what happened to them. There seems to be common reaction with
these children though they can become extremely depressed/ quite/ or they can
be aggressive and bully other children especially in their own home.
If your
child’s behavior seems extreme or aggressive maybe it is time to take them to a
therapist, to see what is really going on with them …
Every parent will say not my child they tell me everything
… I call BS on that the parent is usually the last one they tell… nor will they
tell a relative (probably not a good idea to even try) if a kid is out of
control, there is a reason behind it, they need help ..
They are acting out for a
reason and the reasons can be many
Did the child move a great deal and
has no close friends
Are they online a lot?
Has your child been at sleep away
camp or in an environment where they might have been exposed to be predator
(unfortunately this is a thought you need to have in this day and age)
Are they isolated in location and
with peers?
If your child is defiant to the level of
causing conflicts at home and disturbing family life, get them help …
What seems to trigger your child’s behavior?
I am not a doctor or degreed in this area … I have lived
through a great deal of trauma myself, and I sought help, I know people and
children who have been abused, and children who have sever anger issues for
whatever issue …
I also have received emails about children who are out of
control and have drugs problems …
I know you think “psychologist”, when I say these things…
which is good and should be done…
I have also learned over last several
years the value of OT (occupational therapy) … not something you first think of
when you think of “anger issues” … but I have seen miracles
with this type of therapy in
people of all ages … it is teaching of cognitive skills to control your
anger
As a matter of fact I have
seen such remarkable results in children with OT … I think in this day and age
all children should have OT for every single child is under stress in today’s
society and with all the anger issues in the world today … maybe every single
person should have OT on how to control behavior …
But seriously get your kid help and look into
“anger issue with children and OT” as well as a therapist … fix it now or the
child will only get worse as the pressures on your child increases as they grow.
