Perfect the way you are

To this I speak mostly about girls, although this can also be applied to boys … Our children are taught by their peers, and society via advertising and bullying that they are flawed … they are ugly… they are too fat (or to skinnier)… they are dumb… no one likes them… they are losers … in essence they are told they have no value and hence no self-worth… now as a kid most will believe that (we all can remember our high school days, tuff time to live through) … a kid at that age will naturally doubt themselves and feel insecure… pile on the garbage another child and society places upon them and it can break some kids, they can fall into depression, they can develop phobias or become isolated.   

Self-worth has to be instilled into a child at an early age their personal value, not only to you, but to themselves… To teach a child there will be times as they grow up that someone else will try to take away their personal value … this is hard for an adult to do never mind a child… but keep bringing home this point to your child “they have worth and value and they are perfect the way they are”.

Sadly the children that bully other children are usually the most damaged themselves and have massive amount of personality defects … they have been allowed to develop a toxic attitude and it poisons society … talk to your kids (everyday) encourage them to share with you their thoughts, their feelings … there will come a time in your child’s life they may not want to talk to you directly… this is normal … maybe work something out with your child … have a third person or a friend be the one the child can talk to … make sure that third party has a similar outlook on life as you do though… similar values and such …

Being a parent is work, 24/7/365 days of work until (well forever)!  Yet single moms I know you are up for the job and you can do it!  I am rooting for you!